Did you squeeze your lemon to the last drop?
Are you truly living your life?
Every man dies, not every man really lives.
William Wallace (Braveheart)
These words echoed in the heart of Cha, as she eulogized her late great father, Rob Thompson.
As Cha graduated high school, Rob asked her, "Did you squeeze your lemon?" Cha replied, "What do you mean by that?" "Each experience is a lemon. Did you squeeze your lemon to the last drop?"
Every experience is a lemon. Rob had these one-line euphemisms and proverbs. Since he had so many wealthy clients, I asked him a lot about his philosophy on life, wealth, and passing on financial and intellectual wealth to our next generation.
"Dishwashers work hard. You should work smart."
"People may think you're an idiot if you are silent, but if you speak, they'll know you're an idiot."
"All wealthy people want their kids to turn out well, but unfortunately, most don't."
"Never give them so much that they self-destruct or don't have to work. By 35, their character and values are established, so give them enough to have optionality."
"Money gives you optionality, but it doesn't solve the essential issues of life."
"I am part of all who I've met." — from the poem 'Ulysses' by Alfred Lord Tennyson.
"Never let the truth get in the way of a good story." He was a great storyteller.
"If not me, then who? If not now, then when?" — His take on a quote from Hillel the Elder, a 1st-century Jewish scholar.
"I married up." When I met Rob's wife, Anita, yesterday, I understood what he meant.
I was so excited to have lunch with Rob on Monday, Feb 10. 12:15 pm, to be exact. I showed up at noon, deciding to wait for him for once, as I always run late. At 12:18pm, I texted him, "Hi Rob, at lunch at Oshi Nori. Do you want me to order a sushi set for you? Everything ok?" He was never late. Every time the door opened, I expected to see his smiling face. By 12:45, I ate by myself, wondering what was wrong. At 3:24, "Dear Rob… I hope you are ok. Let me know for peace of mind or anything I can do to help if you are in Vancouver."
Rob had climbed the Matterhorn just 18 months prior. He was so physically fit. He regularly ran 10 miles up mountains. He was training for his next mountain summit that Monday morning. A sudden heart attack while on his elliptical ended his beautiful life before he could hop on the plane from San Francisco to Vancouver and embrace our intellects and hearts in our latest venture together. Ten days earlier, he and his family had invested a large sum in my new startup, How.com. "Really excited about joining you in this opportunity. Look forward to our journey on this together."
His beautiful wife, Anita, in Rob's celebration of life just this past Sunday in San Fran, said, that catharsis is a greek word, a concept to express our hearts together, so that the emotions of grief and loss can be shared and have an outlet. Most people can maintain up to 150 close relationships. She said that Rob had 10 times that number of deep relationships. Rob was a mighty man, one of my great friends.
We met in 2012 as he wanted to introduce his prestigious investment bank, Goldman Sachs, to me. We became instant friends at that first meeting. Later that Summer, when I returned from Paris, I shared with him that I wanted to make epic movies in 10-20 years. He said he had just met Harald Ludwig, the Chairman of Lionsgate Entertainment. "Really? Can you introduce him to me?" He laughed and said that Harald wanted to meet me. I was confused. "How does he know about me?" I asked. "I told him about you." Harald and I have also become good friends. Every time Rob visited Vancouver, we would all have a meal together. We were so engaged in our deep conversations that I realize now that while it is customary for me to take lots of photos when I am with people, I had no photos with Rob—just the image of his smiling face, full of wit and wisdom, inscribed in my heart.
I could never have imagined Rob dying of a heart attack. I thought I had decades more with him. I implore everyone in their 40s and up to get a calcium heart scan and carotid ultrasound now. Just that Monday night, I visited my friend Yen in the hospital; who had a heart attack on Saturday, had two emergency stents put in and two days later, an additional two coronary stents (quadruple heart vessel disease).
Rob lived a full life at the highest level in both his professional and personal life. For you Rob, I dedicate How.com and our journey together will live on in my heart. But how I wished for two things. First, I wish I had talked to you much more about health; second, I wish I had shared the gospel with you. I will be bolder yet humble, with both going forward. I love you, buddy. May God have mercy and grace on your soul and give strength and peace to your dear family.
This week, I wanted to write about my friend Rob and also share a health and life message. I wonder why God allowed Rob to leave so early. I am still grieving him. I wish this would not happen to anyone without warning.
If you wish to read my three health principles, read on. I pray that they will give you a decade or two more of a vibrant, healthy, wholesome life.
My 3 Health Principles:
Seek God, then love, then wisdom, then health, then wealth, in this order.
Dr. Kevin Ham
My first love was to become a medical doctor since age 14. I became a beloved physician at 30. Now I do health as philanthropy. I have three principles of health that I try to abide by.
Health Principle #1: Prevention is the key to health
While we all combat disease throughout our lives, and one day, our lives will end, the truly great health leaps in longevity have not only been treatments but more so with basic preventative health measures: clean water, clear air, good nutrition, good sewage, good hygiene, immunizations, good fitness, and good relationships with people and nature.
Heart disease is a metabolic disease, triggered mainly by diet but also lifestyle. It is caused by the oxidation of fats in the blood, such as oxidized LDL. What causes this oxidation? Chronic stress, inflammation, heated vegetable oils, and the glycation (sugar) of these fats and proteins, forming advanced glycation end-products (AGEs).
The first vegetable oil was introduced in 1911 by Proctor and Gamble, a candle and soap company. As electricity and high costs threatened the candle business, they hired a chemist to make synthetic fats from seeds to reduce the costs of buying animal fats that were used to make the soaps and candles. They used cotton seed and turned it into oil, which they branded as Crisco (crystallized cotton seed oil). They touted it as a healthier alternative to animal fats and introduced it into the food system. Then came a slew of replacements for beef tallow, lard and ghee (animal fats). Margarine replaced butter. Canola, sunflower, safflower, grapeseed oils replaced olive oil (which is more stable but not as stable as coconut oil). If you must eat fried foods, please consider the use of animal fats, which are the most stable.
The first documented heart attack in the US was in 1912. Dr. William Osler, a Canadian physician in Toronto, co-founder of the prestigious Johns Hopkins Hospital in the US, and also having practiced in Oxford, England, had never seen a heart attack in these three major cities, even until his death in 1919. Heart attacks were very rare. My mentor, who is now in his early 80s, was a doctor in the biggest hospital in Seoul, Korea and only saw a few heart attacks a year in 1975. American fast foods only entered South Korea in the early 1970s.
Removing these vegetable oils, refined sugars, and modern wheat would eliminate heart disease. If you look at the ingredient labels of any packaged foods, you will see sunflower oil, safflower oil, and canola oil in almost all of them. These are processed in factories that look like oil refineries. Inside these oils are trans fats and many oxidative compounds that, when heated again, increase and then oxidize the fats in your bloodstream, leading to inflammation and thickening of the arteries.
From age 55, your muscle mass and bone strength start diminishing faster. At age 75, it takes a drastic turn. You must increase your weight bearing and strength to decrease this loss. I have my 89-year-old father do 100 squats a day (20 squats every hour, five times a day). He can barely walk now as he lay in bed for three years during the Covid years and lost a lot of muscle mass. I will start doing some weights to increase my muscle mass so that if I live to 100, I have enough to be mobile and independent, God willing.
Keep fit, strong, and safe. The Venn of these three things is health:
Health Principle #2: Do no harm
This is part of the Hippocratic oath. Non nocere. We live in an era where money trumps health. Everyone now knows that smoking causes cancer and heart disease. The cigarette packaging warns this, yet we still allow its sale. Meanwhile, selling raw milk in Canada and half of the US is illegal.
Another example of this is fried food — French fries, fried chicken — or foods laden with highly refined sugars. These are recipes for the current heart disease epidemics and cancers.
Herbicides and pesticides like Roundup (glyphosate) have metabolic and hormonal effects on the body. Choosing organic foods is a simple principle to eliminate these from your diet. But organic does not necessarily mean healthy. Foods should be regarded as nutrition and the building blocks for the cells and systems of your body. Monocrop agriculture leads to mineral-deficient soils and, therefore, foods. Many people are deficient in magnesium, selenium, and copper. Magnesium and copper are essential for healthy mitochondrial function, which produces ATP, your body's energy source.
Just like a cast prevents further harm to a fractured bone, what "cast" can you put around your mouth and body that won't allow further damage and toxicity? And let the natural healing ability of your immune system to work. The first cast is health education, which is knowing the difference between real food and fake food (what we call junk food).
The marketing machines of the food industry lead you to believe that this fake food is real and tasty and cheap and convenient, infiltrating your body. This leads to inevitable disease, much earlier onset and severity. Most civilized countries have succumbed to the laws of economics rather than the laws of health.
Health Principle #3: Empower your body to heal
When illness strikes, let your body fight and heal. Just as a fracture heals as part of your remarkable body's repair and rejuvenation system, your body needs the nutrition or micro and macro nutrients to do so. Most people are nutritionally deficient. Medicine doesn't give too much heed and emphasis to these measures. Most lack the fat-soluble vitamins and minerals: Vitamin A, D, E and K2. Typically, these vitamins are found in animal fats. We don't need a lot. Magnesium, zinc, and iron are better absorbed with healthy fats and proteins. When your body has all the necessary nutrition, as well as sunlight, proper rest and good relationships (you only really need one or two really good ones), your body will heal itself.
I liken illness or disease to a fire on the stove. If it is caught early, it can be extinguished with a bit of water, but if left to burn, it will turn into a wildfire that requires waterbombers to put it out. Prevent forest fires by putting them out when they are small — your body can do this. But when it is left to rage, it starts to affect multiple systems; then, it becomes very difficult to manage as it cascades. This is the same for cancer. An early detected cancer is curable. It's easier to kill 1 billion localized cancer cells (typically 0.5 cm in size) than 100 billion cancer cells that have spread to other parts of the body.
Life Questions:
Embrace each day of life full of gratitude and opportunistic eyes
Dr. Kevin Ham
How long do you want to live? (quantity)
The average is ~ 78 to 80 years.
Do you want to be above average?
If so, what will you do daily for Health Principles #1, 2 and 3?
Start small and let your good habits compound over time. You will be amazed at what changes you see in three months, six months, one year, three years, five years, and a decade.
I pray for 100 years of life. I want to do a handful of things in my remaining time. I am turning 55 this year. Rob lived for 58 years.
How do you want to live your life? (quality)
Will you squeeze each lemon you are given fully?
What lemons do you want to squeeze?
Next week:
Don’t let fear of criticism prevent you from doing what is in your heart
Honour your own thoughts and heart first.
See you next Thursday!
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